“You are beautiful because you are alive.” + Behind the Scenes of FJ’s new ‘Embellished Love’ coming soon!

Hello and welcome back! It has been just over a week since I last posted, and I want to thank everyone who supported my last post about anxiety. It was a very cathartic and new experience for me, to give a personal insight into my life, but I am glad that I was able to share. I hope that you will continue on this journey with Ferrajean and I!

Truthfully, this post was supposed to go up on 14th February, Valentine’s day. My plan was to write about how self-love should become a common practice, and not just on one day of the year. However, although I believe that loving yourself is extremely important and fundamental, I want to focus on another, similar, topic. Our perception of ‘beauty’.

‘On Being Ugly’ – a video by karakamos

Last year, I came across a viral video called ‘On Being Ugly’. There are many videos on YouTube that encourage people to stop obsessing about how they look, how they are judged by others and to believe that we are all beautiful. This video, however, is different. Young You Tuber, ‘karakamos’, explains, with raw honesty, how she sees herself as ‘ugly’ and how that isn’t a bad thing unless it stops you from doing what you love. She explains that if she is excited about something, or is enjoying being somewhere, how she looks is the last thing on her mind. But, like all of us, she admits that there are a lot of times when her appearance gets her down.

What stuck with me was when she explained that, when she is feeling bad, she reminds herself that she is beautiful simply because she is alive. Because she is breathing and moving and doing things. And that is beautiful. I think when we step back and take a look at the world around us, and how we function within our world, it really is quite amazing. Everything that we are able to do, from breathing to walking on the moon, as humans, is beautiful and extraordinary. Having the ability to love one another and share the beauty of the world around us, is a spectacular thing that a lot of us take for granted.

Put into perspective, how well you fit into societal standards becomes minute and irrelevant. The things that you do and the people you meet should be what matters, not how you looked while doing them. As a species, I think we are all intricate, complex and pretty amazing creatures. We make mistakes and errors, we cry and get agitated, but we also smile, laugh and love. There is too much conflict in this world to take the beauty and kindness in our everyday lives for granted.

Karakamos beautifully explained that it is okay to not be okay and ‘ugliness’ shouldn’t be seen as something that stops you from living your life and being happy. We are all inherently beautiful because we are living things and physical features shouldn’t define us as beings.

Speaking of beautiful things, FJ founder Lucille, has been working on her new ‘Red Collection’ which will be available online soon!

An exclusive ‘Behind the Sketch’ post will also be up very soon, explaining the inspiration behind one of her new pieces ‘Embellished Love’, so stay tuned!

In the meantime, thank you for reaching the end of this post, and I hope that when you are ever in doubt of your existence and worth, remember that you are beautiful and meaningful because you are alive, and that is pretty amazing.

I believe that we were put on this Earth for a reason. And I think, perhaps, that reason is to live and not just exist.

I leave you with a blurry picture of 14 year-old me, living life on the best school trip ever to Rome, and not caring what the mirror told me.

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From FJ Marketer, Abby x

Having confidence and dealing with anxiety

Welcome back! I’ve been ill for the past week due to the lovely London weather, but I’m back and ready for another post!

Before I get into this post, here is a quick update on what Ferrajean is doing for February. This month, we have some exciting news! We may or may not be releasing a brand new ‘Red collection’, so keep an eye out on our social media ๐Ÿ˜‰

Today I wanted to focus on being confident and dealing with anxiety.

From personal experience, I have always viewed confidence as something that is beyond my reach. Being a naturally shy person, I prefer to stay in the background and get anxious if I am asked to speak up. However, in the past year I have realised that using my voice shouldn’t be something that I am afraid of, and that having confidence shouldn’t be impossible.

Since I have began working for Ferrajean, social media has become a bigger part of my life. In some ways it has been a good thing; I have been inspired by other accounts who are on missions to spread positivity and it allows me to connect with people from all over the world. On the other hand, there are constant comparisons between other people’s appearances and content, and who looks or is perceived as ‘the best’.

People who are influenced by social media can begin to compare themselves constantly to the people around them. This can then lead them to feel insecure and guilty about not fitting into a socially accepted mould. Confidence is no longer something for yourself, but something that pleases other people. However, if you are dressing and acting for the pleasure of other people, you will eventually find that you are no longer in control of your life.

Depression and anxiety go hand in hand when you feel as though you are spiralling out of control. Whether social media or other factors are making you feel like your life is no longer yours, I want you to remember these two things.

Number 1: Breathe

When everything feels out of control, take some back by focusing on your breathing. Anxiety increases your heart-rate to a sometimes overwhelmingly high-frequency beat and focusing on slowing your breathing down can help reduce your anxiety. Find a space where you can be alone and just focus on inhaling and exhaling. By shifting your focus, your mind won’t be continually dwelling on what has made you anxious, if only for a little while.

Number 2: There is always a way

A situation may seem impossible to get out of. A problem may seem unsolvable. At the time of feeling extremely anxious or depressed you will feel as though there is no way out and that you are going to feel like this forever. But I am here to tell you that there is a way out. It may not be easy or fast, but there is a way and you should focus on the fact that there will always be a way. The purpose of terrible things happening in life will not be clear to us when they happen, but, I have found, the reason for many things plays out later down the line. So focus on yourself and your well-being, and eventually you will find a way.

As this post comes to a close, I would like to mention that I am not a qualified psychiatrist and my advice comes from personal experience. But I am here to talk to, if anyone feels a loss of control or motivation. Not only do I want this blog to thrive with ‘behind the scenes’ content, but I also want it to be a platform to share my voice and help others.

This time last year, I didn’t think that I would have the confidence to post on a blog or even be part of a fashion brand, but if your confidence comes from yourself and is for yourself, it is no longer scary.

So I leave you with a sneaky behind the scenes photo of a new piece from Ferrajean, starring yours truly (doing an impression of the dancing woman emoji), to show that even the shyest people can have confidence in themselves.

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From FJ Marketer, Abby x